I met a guy who felt the same way as I did. We got married. We had kids. Life was good. We are raising our little nuggets to be good people. We want them to have good ethics, a moral compass, loving hearts. We do our very best to be good role models for them, to show them what love and commitment looks like. We want them to have all these things and to see all these things because it’s what makes the best human experience, not because a higher power said so. That’s why we chose to raise them to be Godless. What does that mean exactly?
One day, a friend asked if my 5-year-old could come to church with them. She was shocked when my husband and I agreed wholeheartedly. She truly thought we would be offended, like she was trying to brainwash him or something. It was quite the contrary actually. We thought learning about Christianity was a critical piece of his religious education—and religious education is something that all kids should have—but not just about one religion.
We want our kids to be Godless because we want them to be open-minded and thoughtful when it comes to other belief systems that may not match their own. We want them to be educated about how others feel about the world so they can be accepting of everyone.
Whether you want to admit it or not, there isn’t one God. People all over the world believe in different gods, different codes, different afterlives. Regardless of what the truth may be, each and every person’s belief system is what is real to them—it’s their truth. It’s essential for kids to respect the truths of others.
Regardless of who is right and who is wrong, there seems to be a basic set of morals that every religion subscribes to, and that’s what we teach our children. To be kind. To do the right thing even if it’s the hard thing. To treat other people the way they want to be treated. To work hard. To take care of others. The list goes on and on.
One day our children are going to be adults. They are going to have to decide for themselves what their truth is, where their faith lies. It would certainly be easier if they believed what we believe, but there’s no guarantee that they will, and that’s ok. What’s most important to us is that they grow up to be good people, and that above all, they have faith in themselves.