5 Things I Wish People Knew About Being a Work at Home Mom

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I’ve been a freelancer for years now, so I’ve had the freedom to make my own schedule. In some ways it’s been amazing, but it wasn’t until I started working full time from home that I truly understood how incredibly unbalanced my life is. You may think that it totally rocks to do your job without having to take a shower (and it is), but there’s much, much more to it than that.

1. There’s no such thing as a sick day

I think this is something all moms can relate to. I do have a decent amount of say in regards to when I need to be “off” for any number of reasons. However, I don’t really get sick days. Sure, I could just not work if I’m not feeling well, but just like all other non-salaried employees out there, that means no mula. Plus, I still have kids in diapers, so if I have the day off and I can’t pay for childcare, that just means they’re crawling up my legs and screaming for another bowl of Goldfish. Not the zen healing experience you’d imagine.

2. I have to work

While working from home offers me lots of freedoms that I wouldn’t otherwise get at a 9 to 5, it’s still a job, not a hobby. My boss expects me to be around for meetings, for clients, and to accomplish certain tasks on a day to day basis just like she would if I were headed into an office. It’s not like I can say, “That sounds like so much more fun than creating a digital strategy today! The owner won’t mind at all.” Nope, not happening.

Freelancing is fun, but it doesn’t always pay the bills—and I’ve got a shit ton of bills to pay.

3. Point #2 is not negotiable

I know of very few positions that allow you to skip out for a few hours for things like attending playdates or for babysitting your friend’s kids when they have a doctor’s appointment. I wish I could, but I can’t because this is a real job—I swear—so please don’t ask me to. I know it seems like I’m around all the time, but “around” is kind of a subjective term.

Basically, point #2 is not negotiable. My household needs two incomes to survive, so I have to work. I may do work from home, but I’m not a stay at home mom Monday through Thursday.

4. It’s nice to be included sometimes

Speaking of Monday through Thursday, I’ve told you that I cram my full work week into four days so I can spend Friday with my littles, right? I know it’s a pain in the ass that I can’t watch Betty Lou for you on Monday and my kids are going to miss out on story time at the library on Tuesday, but how about we plan something for Friday?

Working from the place where I live is both a blessing and a curse. While pants in the workplace are optional, being in the same place all day, every day can make a mama a bit stir crazy. I do want to get out, so let’s schedule shit on days I can definitely hang.

5. I still feel guilty

I read articles all the time about how stay-at-home-moms have it harder or how working moms have it harder. It kills me because I see both sides of the coin quite clearly—and I get the extra work-from-home-mom guilt on top of all that. My kids are here with a mother’s helper during the day, and I feel like an ass because I’m physically here but I’m not spending any time with them. Even though I’m practically a hermit and never leave my house, it’s still constantly a wreck. It’s not atypical for me to order pizza instead of preparing dinner once—nay, twice—a week.

I also lack the ability to compartmentalize, which means that crazy cleaning lady and hard working SEO lady aren’t bound to certain parts of my day. This means that it’s not unusual to find me doing dinner prep and hopping in the shower around 11am between client calls, but running reports and working on optimization once the kids are in bed for the night. Like many other parts of my life, I know no boundaries.

I love both of my jobs, the one that feeds my mind and my bank account and the one that feeds my soul. I wouldn’t trade this lifestyle for anything, but it’s not a walk in the park. (I can’t even remember the last time I did go for a walk in the park.) It’s pretty tough, but I’m working at it, and just like stay at home moms and moms who go out of the home to work, I hope my family is better because of it.



  1. Nellwyn says:

    Really great post, thanks for sharing! I work from home a lot as well as a grad student so I understand how hard it is to compartmentalize. I don’t have kids though so I can only imagine what that must be like. It sounds like you’ve got a good system going though for you and your family! 🙂

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    1. Shauna Armitage says:

      Trying to compartmentalize is the worst! It’s impossible to separate the two. My family is still a work in progress, but we’re lucky. Not many people get the opportunity to work from home!

  2. I completely agree with everything you’ve said in this post. I suffer big time with the whole guilt thing since I do work from home and my kids are usually underfoot quite a bit.
    You have me beat by having a set schedule. I need to create one and actually FULLY stick with it! That would make everything easier for sure.

    1. Shauna Armitage says:

      I’m blessed in the fact that we found a mother’s helper to come and care for my daughter for a few hours each day so I can work. Without her, a set schedule would be COMPLETELY impossible. Just keep at it Crystal! I hear things get easier when they get older. Maybe.

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